Over the course of my marriage, there have been many times that I tried to change my husband’s mind about something. Every time it happened, I thought I was really, really right. Some of the times hubby decided that he did in fact agree with me, but other times, he held his own. Now in all honesty, up until the last few years I though submission was a little “iffy”. I knew the Bible repeatedly spoke of it, but I thought there must be more to the story. As God has worked to turn my heart towards Him, I have come to realize that submission really is something that I need to do, and it is quite basic.
One of the things I love about my hubby is his ability to make a decision based off of what he thinks to be right, even when his wife disagrees. I know, it sounds odd, but it’s really how I feel. Of course, at the time, I am not happy, but it is wonderful to know that our family is in good hands.
I used to be quite upset that the husband is to be the head of the house, and the wife is to submit in all things. It sounds so difficult. As I have tried to accept the role God has given me, I have learned how freeing it can be. Of course there are times it is harder than others, but when we truly seek to follow God’s teachings, our whole life is at peace.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” Ephesians 5:22-24
On the flip side, I can’t imagine the pressure our husbands feel at this enormous responsibility. I dearly love my hubby, and want to be a good help meet to him. One of the things I can do is be supportive and loving to him. Each of our husbands are quite unique, and have different needs and desires. As their wife, it is up to us to find out how best we can help them.
“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18
Instead of making a mental list of the things we wish our husbands would change about themselves, let’s focus on their strengths, and find a way to help them with their struggles. Rather than fussing at hubby for his “impatience” with our kiddos after a long day, maybe we can help him by getting the children occupied with a fun activity, that doesn’t involve kids running through the house and screaming.
My challenge to you is to actually take 5 minutes to write a list of a few things that you love about your husband. Then come up with a couple of ways you can help him with his struggles.
I love that my hubby: isn’t swayed by other’s opinions; passionately loves his children; strives to be more godly; listens to my thoughts on how we should parent; wants to be the leader of our house.
I can be a good help meet to my hubby by: making sure the house is run to his liking; work to improve on our children’s education where I have been lacking; show him how important he is to me; be supportive of his decisions, even when I don’t want to.
Now it is your turn… how can you be a good help meet to your hubby?