When we only had two kiddos, we were at a different place in life. We were seeking the “American Dream“, with Christianity mixed in. I had this ideal of having my children in their perfectly decorated rooms, with trendy clothes and getting lots of “individual” time with mom and dad. Now with four children, our life looks a little different. Not only did God really shake-up our spiritual life, and cause us to really seek Him and His will, but the way our house functions has really changed.
Having a big family has affected many aspects of our lives. Here are a few:
- What’s a restaurant? An occasional drive-thru might be feasible, but sit down restaurants are far too expensive and difficult.
- Can you say “Staycation”? Years ago we made frequent trips to amusement parks, and many other fun vacation spots. Now, it neither sounds as doable or fun.
- Buying in bulk; cooking from scratch. Need I say more?
- Hand me downs are wonderful!
- I’ve learned to cut everyone’s hair. Even at bargain rates, six haircuts add up quickly!
- Cloth diapers. I can’t even begin to calculate how much we’ve saved by not buying disposables and wipes!
- No longer does every child need to be signed-up for extracurricular sports and lessons. “If you really want to learn something, and I can’t teach it, you must be committed before we start a new kind of lesson.”
- Really, kids don’t need their own bedrooms.
- We share everything. “I understand you got it for your birthday, but we still share.”
- Not everything is fair. Sometimes some kids get some things, and others don’t. It’s really okay.
- We learn together. I don’t have any desire to teach each child individual subjects, per grade.
- Older children help out with younger children.
- “Sometimes you have to eat things you don’t love.” I’m sorry but I can’t be a short order cook all day.
Really, when it comes down to it, we are all very happy. Obviously God has blessed us greatly with many children, and we would love more. I used to think that with lots of children, we would need lots of money, and even then I would be compromising the care of our children. Now, with less income then when we had two, we eat healthier, live more simply, and wouldn’t trade it for the world.
“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” Psalms 127:3